Alone but not lonely

We live in a world that worships individual space and independence yet fears alienation like the plague, isn’t it? Yet we come across people that are perfectly happy in their solitude. Some of them crave their ‘me-time’ while others make special efforts to spend quality time with themselves. Such people have got it right. Seems strange? Well, not quite. Numerous studies have shown that meaningful alone-time is quite nurturing for the individual taking it.

Actually, the need for solitude has increased manifold in the past few decades. It is quite the medicine in today’s world of momentum and speed. Come to think of it, solitude (not read as loneliness) connects us to our deeper selves. As a result, we can form better bonds and associations with other people in our lives.

Still sounds counter-intuitive to you? Well that is perhaps because of one of two reasons. A: there is a difference between solitude and loneliness; and B: there are numerous benefits of solitude (unlike loneliness)

A: Being alone is not always lonely. It is quite the opposite, really. Solitude can be wonderful. Paul Tillich once said: “Language has created the word ‘loneliness’ to express the pain of being alone and the word ‘solitude’ to express the glory of being alone.”  True loneliness is a product of isolation and rejection, feeling unwanted, unloved and personally impoverished. Solitude has its companions: a full range of active senses, heightened awareness, a firm connection to place and time with a sense of being grounded and a soaring spirit. Solitude fosters creativity, loneliness breeds discontent. Solitude is a choice; loneliness is not. Solitude feels good; loneliness does not.

B: We need to spend time with ourselves, now more than ever. Being alone empowers us to regulate and fine-tune our lives. It gives us strength and makes us resilient. It also helps to restore our physical and psychic energies. The stillness of solitude provides us with some much needed rest and relaxation too. It also helps channel our curiosity to explore the unknown. Above all, solitude promotes one’s drive to be a remarkable individual.

The natural creativity in all of us is often a result of alone-time. Imagination, creativity, curiosity and the will to explore are created through contemplation in solitude. We need to release aloneness from its negative status that is considered as loneliness. As explained as above, there is a huge difference in solitude and loneliness.

The respite provided by solitude, contemplation, , alone and private times is immeasurable. Remember that love is not all there is to psychological well-being; work and creativity also sustain health: both mental and physical.

This is Juhi, signing off for now… Hope you take some time out for yourself to experience the bliss that only solitude can provide.  Adios, amigos!

Thoughts of Juhi Jaiswal…

Sewa done for Synergy with Energy



The power and freedom to choose

The word proactive is a fairly common managerial term nowadays but it is not just limited to taking initiative. It goes beyond that. It also refers to taking full and complete responsibility for one’s life.  Anything that we do, feel, think and perceive is all a result of the decisions that one has made at some point or the other, in their life. These decisions may be made from a conscious, subconscious or unconscious level. But they are their own decisions, nonetheless.

And yes, not everything happens because of a deliberate choice. Yes, sometimes there are things that happen by mistake or because of something that we cannot control. But in such cases also, we need to take responsibility for our reaction or response that these events get. If the event was not in one’s control, at least the response can be, right?

Whenever an event occurs, there is a small window of opportunity where the person can make a choice between a healthy and positive response and an unhealthy and negative reaction. The goal of self-improvement is to increase the size of this window of opportunity so that, in it, one can make good choices and choose positive responses.

Proactive people take charge of their lives and they know that it is only them who can make their lives better. No one else can do it for them. Reactive people, on the other hand, are the opposite of proactive people. They blame the surrounding, people and environment for their life condition. This blame game does not really help anyone as rarely does any problem get solved, by blaming someone for it.

Becoming proactive can change your life. Is it easy to do? Maybe. Maybe not. To some of you, it may even seem like scaling Mt. Everest, but you have to remind yourself that in this climb, you are your own Sherpa! The ability to march up and scale great heights is within you, as is the ability to retreat before the summit. The choice is always yours to make…to be proactive or reactive. Choose now!

This is Juhi signing off, hoping that you make a healthy choice and reap its benefits in your future… Until next time, ciao and take care!

Thoughts of Juhi Jaiswal…

Sewa done for Synergy with Energy