Is fascination with perfection healthy for you?

“I am careful not to confuse excellence with perfectionExcellence I can reach for; perfection is God’s business.” – Michael J. Fox

We all want the perfect life with the perfect job and the perfect car with the perfect house in which lives the perfect family. But have you ever stopped to wonder whether this fascination with perfection is healthy or not? Whether it is doing you any good or is it taking away something from your life?

Excellence is defined as the quality of being outstanding or extremely good. Perfection is defined as having all the required or desirable elements, qualities, or characteristics; as good as it is possible to be.

Just by the definitions, you can see that perfection seems like an enormous task. And it is! Just imagine how difficult it is to be ‘as good as possible’ at something. Even if we spent all the 24 hours of the day on perfecting something, it still isn’t quite possible to actually be perfect at it. Because it’s quite unlikely that even with the best of all our efforts, we will be able to attain perfection. Aiming for perfection is something like setting yourself up for failure because no matter how hard we try, there will always be something or the other that remains undone or ‘imperfect’.

And that’s okay. We really need to realise this. IT IS OKAY TO BE IMPERFECT. In today’s world, everyone is running after perfection. And while it may serve some people some good, it doesn’t do so for majority of people. The key to living a peaceful life is to not aim for perfection. Sound strange? Well, maybe it is! But won’t one rather be strange or a little offbeat rather than stressed and in-line for the very elusive ‘perfection’.

Excellence is doing one’s job very well, to the best of one’s ability. But perfection isn’t so. Perfection, more often than not, refers to standards set by someone else or the action of wanting to fit-into a pre-decided mould of what looks ‘great’. And while there’s nothing wrong with that, it does become an issue is when individuals start chasing the elusive dream of perfection and start ruining their health and overall lives over it.

I mean, think about it… is something really that important that you start losing sleep over it, start having unhealthy lifestyle choices and keep getting stressed over it? Issues like irritable mood, constant worrying, feeling low/ cranky, fluctuations in blood pressure, loss/increase in appetite… these are all symptoms of not being able to deal with constant pressure of performing or attaining perfection. And for what? To what end? It is something we really need to think about: at an individual level and as a society. What legacy are we leaving for our future generations if all they saw us do was being burnt out, overworked and under-slept?

When you find yourself in the rat race to attain the ‘perfect’ life, remind yourself of what Michael J. Fox said, that perfection is God’s business. Leave the worry, strain and tension of having the “perfect life” because last time anybody checked, it didn’t exist!

Article written by Juhi Jaiswal

Sewa done for Synergy with Energy

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Living a Life Of Purpose

Purpose is one of the most powerful motivators in the world. The secret of true passion lies in purpose. If you engage in a particular activity that doesn’t have a purpose, then there isn’t really a point to it, is there? It, then, becomes extremely difficult to feel charged up and enthusiastic toward the activity. When you are not passionate about the undertaken endeavour, you won’t feel connected to and fulfilled by it, isn’t it?

This is especially true of your vocation or that work which takes up most of your day. Our work is how we contribute to this world, how we add value to our environment. It is also a huge factor in how we feel about ourselves. Our self-esteem is hugely affected by what we do with our days and years spent on this planet.

In the past, we used to be content to have a job that helped us pay the rent and bills. But now we want and expect more out of our jobs and daily work. And this is true- not just of our jobs but of anything and everything we do… from the smallest to the biggest of things. But now things have changed, and quite a lot!

We now crave much more than just the salary. We want creative challenges, a sense of fulfillment, growth, joy and satisfaction and a sense that we are alive for something more than ourselves. In short, all we are looking for, in our lives is meaning and our daily work is what that gives it to us.

One of the best ways to find more meaning in your work is to creatively question all that happens around you. This will help you become aware of the impact that your work has on the world around you. You can ask questions like:

  • What is the impact my work has on the lives of associated with it?
  • How does my product/service affect my employees and customers?
  • Do my daily efforts make a difference in this world?
  • What can I do to live a better life and make the lives of others also better?
  • How can I contribute to help the society and whole of humanity too?

The more you are able to answer the above questions, the more you will be inspired to work harder and smarter. The other scenario is that your questioning will help you find areas of improvement that can be worked upon.

When you graduate from a somewhat basic, self-centric yet powerful inclination to survive – into a  heartfelt commitment to serve; you cannot help but thrive and not just survive. Your whole life-state will improve and uplift.

Being filled with a deep sense of inspiration, commitment and determination to make this world a better place, in whatever way possible is perhaps even more important than a quality like hard work or smart work.

Don’t regret having a half-lived life. Instead, start now and the world is your oyster! Your legacy begins now, not twenty years from now, when you “have more time”. Reflect on what you want your life to stand for. Think about what you want to gift this world. What will be different in this world because of your presence?

The time to find your purpose is now. The time for action is now.

Article penned by Juhi Jaiswal

Sewa done for Synergy with Energy

Achieving Greatness

Do you want to live an extraordinary life? If yes, here’s some insight into how that can be made possible:

One way to achieve an extraordinary life is to increase your self- awareness. And for this, self-examination is the first step. Explore your self. Reflect on your life. Try new things. Figure out what you like and what you don’t. Get to know yourself better. Learn about your greatest capacities, hidden strengths and biggest weaknesses. Gain an insight into who you are fundamentally as a person.  If you don’t know all this about your own self, then how will it be possible to go out in the world with your A-game?

Once you are equipped with this knowledge, you can create the magic that you were meant to create. Remember, you were born to do great things. You owe it to this world to shine and if you didn’t, this planet will be a little less of a place.

 Another way to achieve greatness is to set concrete goals. Goals are like the backbone of any attempt to succeed in life. And, goal setting isn’t valuable because of the reward you receive after you’ve achieved the goal. It is valuable because it changes you as a person. Whether the goal was to be a better runner or a better parent, achieving it improves you and makes you a better person. And once you conquer the mountaintop, it also strengthens you.

Often this growth is not obvious and happens at an invisible level. The work it takes to fulfill any goal leaves you with qualities like self-discipline, an in-depth awareness of your life and a discovery of your abilities and potential.

And yes, you may falter on the way to the top but if you really think about it; failing is a matter of choice. Yes, nobody “chooses” to fail. Agreed. But actual failure occurs when a person decides not to stand up, after falling or failing. Nothing can stop a person who is determined to succeed, who refuses to be kept down. All it takes is a decision from the core of your being that no matter what happens, you will march to the beat of your drum, that you will keep walking the path of your life….the path you have decided to tread on, irrespective of the issues that exist or the obstacles that crop up.  Instead of letting them become stopping stones, turn them into stepping-stones.

Another thing you can do is really focus on being great. Like anything that is worth achieving, greatness too requires us to pay attention to it. So, focus on having unlimited passion for your work…whether you’re a rocket scientist/ teacher/ postman/ parent/ spouse/ son/ daughter. Whatever you do, do it with love, sincerity and utmost dedication.. That’s the only way to be great, i.e. to infuse it with all these and wait for the wonders to happen.

Last, but not the least, create extraordinary value in the lives of others. Be truly outstanding in every element of your personal and professional life. Be there for people. Let them know you care. A great person isn’t great because he does great things. He is great because he does small things in a great way.

Article penned by Juhi Jaiswal

Sewa done for Synergy with Energy

On Feeling Good and Affluence

Affluence is not going to bring freedom to people – it is going to tie them up in knots.  ~ Sadhguru

Why do we give money and material possessions so much importance? It’s not because we want to. It is because we have been conditioned to do so. Since we have been children, we have been told by our parents, relatives, friends and society at large, to get a job when we grow up. Nobody tells us to get a job that we love.

Slowly it’s becoming one of the very few things people are constantly thinking about,  one of the few things that they are concerned about and  sometimes even the only thing people run after.

E.g. If we do not drive an expensive car, live in a particular type of house, follow certain ‘hi-fashion statements’ and have a certain amount of bank-balance, we are often times made to feel like we are failures at life. But is this really what makes us successful? Really? Do you seriously think that after we die, people around us are going to care about our ‘economic standard’ or remember us for how many possessions we owned? I think not.

“I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.”

– Maya Angelou

Isn’t this so true! When someone asks you to remember a person, what matters to you isn’t how affluent they are or what type of car they own… what matters is what kind of human being they are and how you feel around them. Your fondest memories of people you love are dear to you because these people made you feel good, special and loved, not because they were rich or powerful or famous.

They say money cannot buy happiness. Sometimes it may come close, but it is not quite there. Because the most special things cannot be seen or touched but only felt by the heart. And this is precisely the reason why retail therapy doesn’t work. If you are sad, and think that buying new clothes will make you feel better, then you are just a very fashionably well-dressed sad person.

In this competitive world, barring a few people, almost every one is trying to outrun the other. Constant comparison ends up making us feel bad about ourselves resulting in bruised egos and lowered self-esteem. What we need to realize is that it isn’t material gains that will lead us to feel good, it is kindness, passion, humanity and love that will lead us to happiness and feeling good.

Article penned by Juhi Jaiswal

Sewa Done for Synergy with Energy

On achieving Greatness

Do you want to live an extraordinary life? If yes, here’s some insight into how that can be made possible:

One way to achieve an extraordinary life is to increase your self- awareness. And for this, self-examination is the first step. Explore your self. Reflect on your life. Try new things. Figure out what you like and what you don’t. Get to know yourself better. Learn about your greatest capacities, hidden strengths and biggest weaknesses. Gain an understanding of who you are fundamentally as a person.  If you don’t know all this about your own self, then how will it be possible to go out in the world with you’re A-game?

Once you are equipped with this knowledge, you can create the magic that you were meant to create. Remember, you were born to do great things. You owe it to this world to shine and if you didn’t, this planet will be a little less of a place.

Another way to achieve greatness is to set concrete goals. Goals are like the backbone of any attempt to succeed in life. And, goal setting isn’t valuable because of the reward you receive after you’ve achieved the goal. It is valuable because it changes you as a person. Whether the goal was to be a better runner or a better parent, achieving it improves you and makes you a better person. And once you conquer the mountaintop, it also strengthens you.

Often this growth is not obvious and happens at an invisible level. The work it takes to fulfill any goal leaves you with qualities like self-discipline, an in-depth awareness of your life and a discovery of your abilities and potential.

And yes, you may falter on the way to the top but if you really think about it; failing is a matter of choice. Yes, nobody “chooses” to fail. Agreed. But actual failure occurs when a person decides not to stand up, after falling or failing. Nothing can stop a person who is determined to succeed, who refuses to be kept down. All it takes is a decision from the core of your being that no matter what happens, you will march to the beat of your drum, that you will keep walking the path of your life….the path you have decided to tread on, irrespective of the issues that exist or the obstacles that crop up.  Instead of letting them become stopping stones, turn them into stepping-stones.

Another thing you can do is really focus on being great. Like anything that is worth achieving, greatness too requires us to pay attention to it. So, focus on having unlimited passion for your work…whether you’re a rocket scientist/ teacher/ postman/ parent/ spouse/ son/ daughter. Whatever you do, do it with love, sincerity and utmost dedication.. That’s the only way to be great, i.e. to infuse it with all these and wait for the wonders to happen.

Last, but not the least, create extraordinary value in the lives of others. Be truly outstanding in every element of your personal and professional life. Be there for people. Let them know you care. A great person isn’t great because he does great things. He is great because he does small things in a great way.

Article penned by Juhi Jaiswal

Sewa done for Synergy with Energy

On Living A Life Of Purpose

Purpose is one of the most powerful motivators in the world. The secret of true passion lies in purpose. If you engage in a particular activity that doesn’t have a purpose, then there isn’t really a appoint to it, is it? It, then, becomes extremely difficult to feel charged up and enthusiastic toward the activity. When you are not passionate about the undertaken endeavour, you won’t feel connected to and fulfilled by it, isn’t it?

This is especially true of your vocation or that work which takes up most of your day. Our work is how we contribute to this world, how we add value to our environment. It is also a huge factor in how we feel about ourselves. Our self-esteem is hugely affected by what we do with our days and years spent on this planet.

In the past, as a people, we used to be content to have a job that helped us pay the rent and bills. But now we want and expect more out of our jobs and daily work. And this is true- not just of our jobs but of anything and everything we do… from the smallest to the biggest of things. But now things have changed, and quite a lot!

We now crave much more than just the salary. We want creative challenge, a sense of fulfillment, growth, joy and satisfaction and a sense that we are alive for something more than ourselves. In short, all we are looking for, in our lives is meaning and our daily work is what that gives it to us.

One of the best ways to find more meaning in your work is to creatively question all that happens around you. This will help you become aware of the impact that your work has on the world around you. You can ask questions like:

  • What is the impact my work has on the lives of associated with it?
  • How does my product/service affect my employees and customers?
  • Do my daily efforts make a difference in this world?
  • What can I do to live a better life and make the lives of others also better?
  • How can I contribute to help the society and whole of humanity too?

The more you are able to answer the above questions, the more you will be inspired to work harder and smarter. The other scenario is that your questioning will help you find areas of improvement that can be worked upon.

When you graduate from a somewhat basic, self-centric yet powerful inclination to survive – into a  heartfelt commitment to serve; you cannot help but thrive and not just survive. Your whole life-state will improve and uplift.

Being filled with a deep sense of inspiration, commitment and determination to make this world a better place, in whatever way possible is perhaps even more important than a quality like hard work or smart work.

Don’t regret having a half-lived life. Instead, start now and the world is your oyster! Your legacy begins now, not twenty years from now, when you “have more time”. Reflect on what you want your life to stand for. Think about what you want to gift this world. What will be different in this world because of your presence?

The time to find your purpose is now. The time for action is now.

Article penned by Juhi Jaiswal

Sewa done for Synergy with Energy

Alone but not lonely

We live in a world that worships individual space and independence yet fears alienation like the plague, isn’t it? Yet we come across people that are perfectly happy in their solitude. Some of them crave their ‘me-time’ while others make special efforts to spend quality time with themselves. Such people have got it right. Seems strange? Well, not quite. Numerous studies have shown that meaningful alone-time is quite nurturing for the individual taking it.

Actually, the need for solitude has increased manifold in the past few decades. It is quite the medicine in today’s world of momentum and speed. Come to think of it, solitude (not read as loneliness) connects us to our deeper selves. As a result, we can form better bonds and associations with other people in our lives.

Still sounds counter-intuitive to you? Well that is perhaps because of one of two reasons. A: there is a difference between solitude and loneliness; and B: there are numerous benefits of solitude (unlike loneliness)

A: Being alone is not always lonely. It is quite the opposite, really. Solitude can be wonderful. Paul Tillich once said: “Language has created the word ‘loneliness’ to express the pain of being alone and the word ‘solitude’ to express the glory of being alone.”  True loneliness is a product of isolation and rejection, feeling unwanted, unloved and personally impoverished. Solitude has its companions: a full range of active senses, heightened awareness, a firm connection to place and time with a sense of being grounded and a soaring spirit. Solitude fosters creativity, loneliness breeds discontent. Solitude is a choice; loneliness is not. Solitude feels good; loneliness does not.

B: We need to spend time with ourselves, now more than ever. Being alone empowers us to regulate and fine-tune our lives. It gives us strength and makes us resilient. It also helps to restore our physical and psychic energies. The stillness of solitude provides us with some much needed rest and relaxation too. It also helps channel our curiosity to explore the unknown. Above all, solitude promotes one’s drive to be a remarkable individual.

The natural creativity in all of us is often a result of alone-time. Imagination, creativity, curiosity and the will to explore are created through contemplation in solitude. We need to release aloneness from its negative status that is considered as loneliness. As explained as above, there is a huge difference in solitude and loneliness.

The respite provided by solitude, contemplation, , alone and private times is immeasurable. Remember that love is not all there is to psychological well-being; work and creativity also sustain health: both mental and physical.

This is Juhi, signing off for now… Hope you take some time out for yourself to experience the bliss that only solitude can provide.  Adios, amigos!

Thoughts of Juhi Jaiswal…

Sewa done for Synergy with Energy

 

The power and freedom to choose

The word proactive is a fairly common managerial term nowadays but it is not just limited to taking initiative. It goes beyond that. It also refers to taking full and complete responsibility for one’s life.  Anything that we do, feel, think and perceive is all a result of the decisions that one has made at some point or the other, in their life. These decisions may be made from a conscious, subconscious or unconscious level. But they are their own decisions, nonetheless.

And yes, not everything happens because of a deliberate choice. Yes, sometimes there are things that happen by mistake or because of something that we cannot control. But in such cases also, we need to take responsibility for our reaction or response that these events get. If the event was not in one’s control, at least the response can be, right?

Whenever an event occurs, there is a small window of opportunity where the person can make a choice between a healthy and positive response and an unhealthy and negative reaction. The goal of self-improvement is to increase the size of this window of opportunity so that, in it, one can make good choices and choose positive responses.

Proactive people take charge of their lives and they know that it is only them who can make their lives better. No one else can do it for them. Reactive people, on the other hand, are the opposite of proactive people. They blame the surrounding, people and environment for their life condition. This blame game does not really help anyone as rarely does any problem get solved, by blaming someone for it.

Becoming proactive can change your life. Is it easy to do? Maybe. Maybe not. To some of you, it may even seem like scaling Mt. Everest, but you have to remind yourself that in this climb, you are your own Sherpa! The ability to march up and scale great heights is within you, as is the ability to retreat before the summit. The choice is always yours to make…to be proactive or reactive. Choose now!

This is Juhi signing off, hoping that you make a healthy choice and reap its benefits in your future… Until next time, ciao and take care!

Thoughts of Juhi Jaiswal…

Sewa done for Synergy with Energy

On appreciating yourself more

The Oxford dictionary defines the word ‘appreciation’ as: ‘the recognition and enjoyment
of the good qualities of someone or something’. Self-appreciation then, means having the
same attitude of recognition and enjoyment as well as respect and admiration for one’sown Self.

This article is an attempt to quickly inform you about how one can develop a deeper appreciation for one’s own self.

If there is one thing that I know for sure, it is: “you will have the longest, strongest and the most important connection with your own Self.” Just imagine, if your ‘Self’ i.e. mind, body and soul did not exist, it would not possible to have anything at all; including relationships, possessions and your life as a whole.

Another key point is that you can’t give something to another person that you yourself do not have. So how can you bring love and positivity to this world, your relationships, family and friends and work if you don’t love and appreciate yourself?

Let’s begin with how we can appreciate ourselves better.

1. DO NOT COMPARE YOURSELF TO OTHER PEOPLE. Every person is unique. When one starts deriving their sense of self-worth from comparison with others, that’s how all problems like jealousy, low self-esteem etc. arise. Respecting and valuing oneself as well as others is an important indicator of our species’ evolution.
Practicing self-admiration and working on your self respect will help you feel better about yourself. Try it some time. not comparing yourself to others and it surely feels awesome!

2. BE YOU. Be your own person. By this, I mean being your authentic Self. The true ‘you’…The real ‘you’. Don’t be a copy of someone. Be original. Be unique and stay unique. Because then, there will be nobody like you. And that is your power.

3. BE GRATEFUL for all that you have received thus far in your life and for whatever that will come your way. Appreciate what you already have in your life. Gratitude has statistically been proven to be one of the predictors of current and future happiness. It is simple logic: counting your blessings will give you an idea of how blessed you are. And this will help you focus on the brighter side of life and the positive aspects of own Self too.

4. LOOK IN THE MIRROR AND SPEAK TO YOURSELF. What you tell yourself and how you talk to yourself has a really deep impact on your life. It becomes essential, if not crucial to have positive, accepting and unconditionally loving auto-suggestions and auto-talk.

5. YOUR JOURNEY IS YOURS ONLY AND NO ONE ELSE’S. Sounds obvious, right? Now, the next thing is to take responsibility for your life, including the way you see and feel about yourself. Eleanor Roosevelt once said that nobody can make you feel inferior without your consent. How true! If we truly love and respect ourselves, then it is really easy to keep our cool and not be offended when people are sometimes nasty.

6. REMEMBER THAT YOU HAVE A LOT TO OFFER OTHERS. Your talent, beauty, experiences, wisdom, your affection, compassion, strength and love….all of these are so valuable. And they could really really help another being. Always remember: if any self-doubt that creeps in, it doesn’t belong in your awesome ‘Self’! Just keep reminding this to yourself…like a mantra.

7. SPEAK YOUR MIND. Be open and clear while communicating with others (and your self too) it is often the words you do no verbalise that haunt you for the longest time. As they say, speak your mind, even if your voice shakes. At the end of the day, at least you won’t regret that you didn’t say something.

8. DRAW INSPIRATION FROM OTHERS who unconditionally love themselves for who they are. Spend time with them. Ask them questions. And if their answers make sense to you, imbibe them in your lives. You can practice what they preach. Life is a learning process. And we are all here to learn from one another.

The bottom line is that life is too short to not appreciate, value and admire yourself. You are glorious. Each one reading this… You are glorious and amazing.

DON’T LET YOURSELF, SOCIETY,MEDIA OR ANYBODY ELSE TELL YOU
OTHERWISE.

Thoughts by Juhi Jaiswal, Sewa for Synergy with Energy

What Happens After Death ??

This article has been extracted from …
*The Garuda Puranam*
What is death ?
Is there life after death ?
Is death painful?
What happens after death ?
How does rebirth happen ?
Where do we go after death ?
These kind of questions related to the most feared event that ends our life always fill our mind, especially when any of our near or dear ones die.
We feel that suddenly the relationship has broken abruptly n wish there could be a connection again. In this quest, our journey to find answers to the above questions begin …
*So, what happens after death ?*
Death is actually a very interesting process !!
*Disconnection of the earth sole chakras*
Approximately 4-5 hours before death, the earth sole chakras situated below the feet gets detached … symbolizing disconnection from the earth plane !!
A few hours before an individual dies, their feet turn cold. When the actual time to depart arrives, its said that Yama, the God of death appears to guide the soul.
*The Astral Cord*
Death severs the astral cord, which is the connection of the soul to the body. Once this cord is cut the soul becomes free of the body n moves up n out of the body.
If the soul is attached to the physical body it occupied for this lifetime, it refuses to leave n tries to get into the body n move it n stay in it. We may observe this as a very subtle or slight movement of the face, hand or leg after the person has died.
The soul is unable to accept that it is dead. There is still a feeling of being alive. Since the astral cord has been severed, the soul cannot stay here n is pushed upwards n out of the body. There is a pull from above … a magnetic pull to go up.
*End of the physical body*
At this stage the soul hears many voices, all at the dame time. These are the thoughts of all the individuals present in the room.
The soul on its part talks to his loved ones like he always did n shouts out “I am not dead” !!
but alas, nobody hears him.
Slowly n steadily the soul realizes that it is dead n there is no way back n at this stage, the soul is floating at approx 12 feet or at the height of the ceiling, seeing n hearing everything happening around.
Generally the soul floats around the body till it is cremated.
So, the next time if you see a body being carried for cremation, be informed that the soul is also part of the procession seeing, hearing n witnessing everything n everyone.
*Detachment from the body*
Once the cremation is complete, the soul is convinced that  the main essence of its survival on earth is lost n the body it occupied for so many years has merged into the five elements.
The soul experiences complete freedom, the boundaries it had while being in the body are gone n it can travel anywhere by mere thought.
For 7 days the soul, moves about its places of interest like its favorite joint, morning walk garden, office, etc..If the soul is possessive of his money, it will just stay near his cupboard, or if he is possessive of his children, it will just be in their room, clinging on to them.
By the end of the 7th day, the soul says bye to his family n moves further upwards to the periphery of the earth plane to cross over to the other side.
*The Tunnel*
Its said that there is a big tunnel here which it has to cross before reaching the astral plane. Hence its said that the first 12 days after death are extremely crucial.
*we have to carry out the rituals correctly n pray n ask forgiveness from the soul* so that it does not carry negative emotions like hurt, hatred, anger, etc atleast from the near n dear ones.
All the rituals, prayers n positive energy act like food for the soul which will help it in its onward journey. At the end of the tunnel is a huge bright light signifying the entry into the astral world.
*Meeting the Ancestors*
On the 11th n 12th day Hindus conduct homas n prayers n rituals through which the soul is united with its ancestors, close friends, relatives n the guides.
All the passed away ancestors welcome the soul to the upper plane n they greet n hug them exactly like we do here on seeing our family members after a long time.
The soul then along with its guides are taken for a thorough life review of the life just completed on earth in the presence of the *Great Karmic Board.* It is here in the pure light that the whole past life is viewed !!
*Life Review*
There is no judge, there is no God here. The soul judges himself, the way he judged others in his lifetime. He asks for revenge for people who troubled him in that life, he experiences  guilt for all wrongdoings he did to people n asks for self punishment to learn that lesson. Since the soul is not bound by the body n the ego, the final judgment becomes the basis of the next lifetime.
Based on this, a complete life structure is created by the soul himself, called the blue print. All the incidents to be faced, all problems to be faced, all challenges to be overcome are written in this agreement.
In fact the soul chooses all the minute details like age, person n circumstances for all incidents to be experienced.
Example : An individual had severe headache in his present birth, nothing helped him, no medicines, no way out. In a session of past life regression, he saw himself killing his neighbour in a previous birth by smashing his head with a huge stone.
In the life review, when he saw this he became very guilty n asked for the same pain to be experienced by him by way of a never ending headache in this life.
*Blue print*
This is the way we judge ourselves n in guilt ask for punishment. The amount of guilt in the soul decides the severity of the punishment n level of suffering. Hence forgiveness is very vital. We must forgive n seek forgiveness !!
Clear your thoughts n emotions, as we carry them forward to the other side too. Once this review is done n our blue print for the next life is formed, then there is a cooling period.
*The re-birth*
We are born depending on what we have asked for in the agreement. The cooling off period also depends on our urgency to evolve.
We choose our parents n enter the mothers womb either at the time of egg formation or during the 4-5th month or sometimes even at the last moment just before birth.
The universe is so perfect ,so beautifully designed that the time n place of birth constitutes our horoscope, which actually is a blue print of this life. Most of us think that our stars are bad n we are unlucky but in actuality, they just mirror your agreement.
Once we are reborn, for around 40 days the baby remembers its past life n laughs n cries by itself without anyone forcing it to. The memory of the past life is completely cut after this n we experience life as though we did not exist in the past.
*The agreement starts..*
Its here that we are completely in the earth plane n the contract comes into full effect. We then blame God/ people for our difficult situations n curse God for giving us such a difficult life …
 So, the next time before pointing to the Divine, understand that our circumstances are just helping us complete n honor our agreement, which is fully n completely written by us. Whatever we have asked for n pre decided is exactly what we receive !!
Friends, relatives, foes, parents, spouses all have been selected by us in the blue print n come in our lives based on this agreement. They are just playing their parts n are merely actors in this film written, produced n directed by us !!
*Do the Dead need healing / prayers / protection ?*
The dead always need serious healing n prayers for a variety of reasons, the most important one being … To be free n not earthbound !! … that is stuck in the earth plane n unable to leave.
There are many reasons for the soul to be earthbound like unfinished business, excessive grief, trauma on death, sudden death, fear of moving on to the astral plane, guilt, one of the most important being improper finishing of last rites n rituals.
The soul feels it needs a little more time to wait n finish before moving on.  This keeps them hovering on the earth plane. But the time is limited n it is very very important that they cross over within 12 days to their astral plane of existence, as the entry to the astral world closes a few days after this.
Earthbound spirits lead a very miserable existence as they are neither in their actual plane nor in a body to lead an earthly life. They may not be negative or harmful but they are stuck n miserable. Hence healing n prayers are of utmost importance during this period so that the departed soul crosses over to the designated astral plane peacefully.
Prayers by the whole family is very vital to help the dead cross over. The protection of the soul to help it reach its destination in the astral world is achieved through prayers.
Please Do Not Take Death Lightly … Now more than ever most souls are stuck on the earth plane due to lack of belief and family neglect.
Finally, for someone who has lost a near and dear one, don’t feel sad … We never die, we live on, death does not end anything, it is just a little break before we meet again !!
This article has been extracted from …
*The Garuda Puranam*
Garuda Purana is one of eighteen Mahāpurāṇa genre of texts in Hinduism.