We all want a happy life. Maybe even a perfect life. And at some level, we all want to avoid problems and tough times. We all want a comfortable life which sails smoothly, don’t we? We certainly don’t want to go through problems ‘willingly’.
If hardship and negative situations come our way; yeah well… what choice do we have? We have to face them and go through them. But at a deeper level, we most definitely do not want adversity. No. No. We do not.
Because is it difficult?
Is it all of the above?
Yes. It’s all of that.
Who wants an experience that leaves us tired, upset, sad, worn out, angry; maybe even broken! Nobody. But did you know that “Adversity is like a strong wind that tears from us all but the things that cannot be torn so that we see ourselves as we really are.” – (Arthur Golden). And if you really think about it, that is exactly what adversity does… brings you face to face with your true self.
It is but natural to want smooth, stable sailing with no choppy crashing waves. But have you ever wondered what makes skillful, experienced and the best sailors? The very same rocky seas, not still waters.
There are some really important character-building lessons and qualities like integrity, growth, perseverance, grit, resilience and humility that only tough times can teach us…. lessons that we cannot learn from a smooth sailing life. Benjamin Disraeli once said: “there is no education like adversity.” Don’t you agree? Adversity is one of the best teachers.
So, what would you rather have…these rock-solid qualities or an easy comfortable life? You need to make a choice today. And it can only be one of the two. If you choose the former, you need to be ready… for anything and everything.
… Because growth happens outside your comfort zone
… Because playing it safe and avoiding adversity lead nowhere
… because struggle builds character and shapes your legacy
… because even if you fail, each defeat brings you closer to victory
Ask anyone. They’ll tell you the same thing. What do you want out of life? You need to make that decision. Nobody can do it for you.
Ride out the storm and see what is what. They say, sometimes the only way out is through. And this is something you can remind yourself when you’re going through a difficult phase. Powering through is not easy but it’s not impossible either.
Don’t get me wrong. I’m not suggesting that you go around asking for trouble or willingly put yourself in a tough situation. Definitely not. All I’m saying is that whenever faced with adversity, you must not run in the other direction. Don’t invite problems and issues, but when they arrive, make sure they do not stay.
Don’t ignore the challenge you are faced with and brush it under the carpet or be in denial about it. And if you realize that’s your style, it might be time to look into it because denial works only for so long; after which one has to face the music.
Personally feel (and you just might agree) that there’s a certain beauty to adversity. There’s something to be said about the human spirit that when faced with hardship or a challenge, comes out stronger and victorious.
Even for coal to turn into a diamond, it has to undergo extreme heat and pressure, doesn’t it? Adversity helps us to forge our character, like turning into steel from iron. Adversity is a chance to draw upon the innate courage, strength and power we all possess.
Part of the problem is that we see problems as just that: problems! Instead of seeing every obstacle and adversity as a blockage; try viewing it as an opportunity: an opportunity to try harder, an opportunity to do better, an opportunity to learn something new, an opportunity to try something different, an opportunity to challenge yourself … And this change is perception doesn’t happen overnight. Like anything else that worth doing, change in perception too, comes with awareness, effort, persistence and practice.
To sum it up, I’m reminded of what Motivational guru Robin Sharma writes: “ Do not miss the remarkable opportunity that adversity, even tragedy presents. Your life can even be made better by the things that break your heart.”
So every bump in the road is a chance to go higher. Even basketballs teach us, the harder you fall the higher you bounce. If an inanimate object can do that, then why can’t we?
Thoughts by Juhi Jaiswal…Sewa done for Synergy with Energy